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Hi, I’m Stacie J. Whitaker-Harris—a published author, certified recovery and peer support specialist, mindfulness coach, and artist. My journey has been shaped by over 20 years of writing, storytelling, and community advocacy. From publishing essays and poems as a middle schooler to contributing to university newspapers and appearing in local news, writing has always been my passion.
As a woman of faith with a Master’s in Law (business focus) and a Bachelor’s in Nonprofit Management, I am committed to empowering others through my words, art, and coaching. In 2020, I discovered my love for painting, which began as a form of therapy and blossomed into a creative outlet, with many pieces sold and displayed in local contests. My work reflects a dedication to healing, growth, and honoring the God-given potential in all of us.
Embracing Me is more than a blog—it's a journey of self-discovery, healing, and honoring the divine within. Here, I share my life experiences—good, bad, and transformative—to inspire and uplift. I spent years hiding my gifts and stories out of fear. But through faith, I’ve chosen to embrace who I am and share my God-given talents with the world. From essays and poetry to coaching and peer support, my mission is to guide you toward wholeness and inspire you to live fully and freely in harmony with your mind, body, and spirit. Whether you’re looking for inspiration, seeking coaching, or simply curious about my books and art, I invite you to explore and connect. Let’s walk this path together toward healing, restoration, and empowerment.What Is *Embracing Me*?
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Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Not Free until broken...
Where is your humility?
Where is your praise?
Where is your faith?
Where is your hope?
Where is your trust?
Again I ask you, where is your praise?
Where is your lowliness?
Where is your determination?
Where is your steadfastness?
Where is your joy?
Where is your love?
Where is your heart?
Your praise, where is your praise?
Where is your mind?
Where is your forgiveness?
Where is your fasting?
Where is your worship?
Where is your focus?
Where is your honor?
Where is your press?
To whom does all glory belong?
As I continued lying there, listening, receiving, being ministered to, I heard this:
Monday, May 6, 2013
Baggage & Boundaries (Part III)
For me, introspection is key to growth, expansion, development and totally embracing oneself. Still, I believe maturation comes from our own experiences and those lessons we learn from those who come before us. My mother, the late Barbara A. Whitaker-Jones always told me to never say never but at some point since she transitioned I've found myself speaking exactly that.
Only after careful thought, consideration and the awakening of my soul, where the conscious and unconscious both met and collided, did it become necessary for me to create a standard to live by. This sort of growth requires the affirmative over the negatives of never.
So here I share: The Embracing Me "Bible" (so to speak), which are simple reminders of the do's and don'ts according to life lessons and experiences regarding baggage and boundaries. They have shaped my outlook and developed my character. They have helped me to live, love, laugh and especially know when its time to let go. They have taught me to embrace all the more, everything that makes me, ME...the broken places and empty spaces, the ups and downs, the love I pour and each of my downfalls and dislikes.
I pray these affirmations groom, grow and guide you as you journey on, Embracing everything that makes you, YOU!
- Trust God more than anyone or anything else
- Know that you are a gift containing many gifts - one major gift being LOVE
- Take your time, do not rush into anything or allow yourself to be led astray by impulse
- Avoid the faint whisper of another who seeks to quiet the scream of your inner voice which in turn desires peace
- Allow your brightly lit flame to shine, glow, and grow - always recognizing when other energy seeks to smother your flame
- Believe in, love and share your gifts and talents regardless of other's belief in you or envy/jealousy of you
- Dignity and self respect denotes security and a deep love for oneself - Do not compromise
- Seeking wise counsel does not make you stupid - it makes you wiser
- Remember, potential is just that - actions matter most - Do not settle
- Do not allow the idea of love, the need for companionship or constant loneliness to dictate your actions - Be happy with you
- Remain level-headed with eyes open, mind alert, heart shielded and ears in tune to your inner spirit which makes you aware of wolves in sheep's clothing
- Be open to change, growth and development but know the difference between someone trying to change you and someone aiding to your advancement
- Know you are valuable - Not someones scape goat, whipping post or dumping ground
- You are NOT a victim nor are you your circumstances so live victoriously
- Eagerly await and openly embrace life's daily lessons
- Fight for what you want - know that there is no such thing as a perfect person or perfect relationship - YOU determine the success of your partnership so work for it
- Pointing the finger never works - own your flaws
- Rid yourself of your own mental and emotional garbage - No one else can do that for you
- Know yourself well enough to set your own boundaries
Remember, baggage will blind you. Know yourself enough to know when to ask for help. This includes spiritual counseling as well as mental health counseling.
Feel free to leave a comment to contribute valuable life lessons, experiences, knowledge and uplifting affirmations for individuals as well as couples. Blessings of love
READ:
Baggage & Boundaries (Part I) - Featuring Marcell Russell
Baggage & Boundaries (Part II) - Featuring Ama Chandra
Baggage & Boundaries (Part II)
In this interview she allowed herself to openly express the vulnerability she felt after divorce and a few broken relationships. In doing so, Ama describes her experiences with the baggage she allowed to enter her sacred space, the baggage she carried from relationship to relationship and also the establishment of boundaries after each place of growth.
"Many women, even those on the path of self-actualization, like myself, at the core, simply don't feel loved or lovable because our parents didn't necessarily get "IT" (loving us) right. This leads to us accepting things we shouldn't. For instance, I am so trusting and because of that I have often been manipulated.
So I agree, many of us carry baggage from past trauma's. We have been conditioned towards pain, blame and judgment. So we sort of expect that. People will do anything to justify their behaviors - especially women because many of us are used to being victims.
As a woman and mother, I have learned, through the course of time that I must take care of self and that includes; knowing my worth, trusting "The Spirit" as well as trusting myself. I have learned to read the signs - when someone reveals themselves, I trust what they divulge.
So I reclaim my worth with statements of power and purpose that affirm me such as; Anyone who is not for my highest good is released to their highest good immediately and effortlessly and other affirmations such as; Love flows in and through me effortlessly. I am love. I receive love. I radiate love. I BE LOVE", beautiful songstress, Ama proclaimed.Sacred woman Ama Chandra continued sharing the negative self talk males and females often have after engaging in a distressing relationship with these words,
"This (negativity) does not have to be the case. Releasing something or someone that is not good for you does not have to be met with struggle and strife. We can choose to be at peace which takes practice".Finally, Ama says she remains positive in her outlook towards partnership. Although she no longer relies on the "check list" method to guide, acquire or inform her relationship choices and decisions, Ama does remain open to a complimentary, spiritually grounded, supportive, man, partner and mate who is protective, kind, masculine, artistic and ready to love her and her children.
Each encounter in our lives is an opportunity to grow. Thank you Ama Chandra for your insightful perspective and especially for those powerful affirmations that release positive energy back into the atmosphere.
Enjoy the melodious Ama Chandra as she shares an affirmation of love with her song "Love is Where You Are" as well as one of my favorites "Free" which describes the release of pain and baggage while setting boundaries in order to reclaim peace and balance.
Here are links to connect to this Beautiful instrument and gently loving woman:
Beautiful Melodies by Ama Chandra
Twitter @Amachandra
Friday, April 26, 2013
Baggage & Boundaries (Part 1)
Honestly, in the beginning the scriptures inspired most of my music as well as wanting to address issues in my own walk with God. Then other peoples stories were a bit infused. Next were the ups & downs from a past relationship that had me question so much about my faith. Finally, Vanessa, my amazing wife inspired the last stage of writing and producing this album.
Dating today means testing someone out sexually, emotional, etc… looking for all the guarantees before you commit. That’s a horrible way to “date” especially when sex is involved. I’m not a fan of dating without a purpose of marriage. In fact it’s no where in the bible that anyone dated, they courted only.
I think should you do two things:
1. Work everyday to become what you would desire from someone else; it can help keep you reasonable, grounded, humble and clear in your desires
2. Search the scriptures and grab four scriptures that define your philosophy around love, friendship and marriage. Why? So often I meet religious men and women that can’t give me or anyone one scripture that guides the way they love or befriend people. We can just often rely on our upbringing and think we learned love from the perspective of the one who created love, friendship and marriage in the first place.
To be honest I cannot speak for everyone but from my minimal experience it seems we want what is most familiar more then what is best. It can take years for a person to go from being an employee to a boss or from a boss to an actual entrepreneur because we often do what was taught to us and what we are familiar with.
It’s the same things in relationships if I was never allowed to share my true emotions in my family, if I saw very little apologizing, if I was defensive even if I was wrong, if I saw a lot of manipulation growing then I’m familiar with that.
But, if I heard grown ups being humble, being honest about the need for affection, talking through hurts and pains, and openly expressing desires then I am familiar with that.
It can take folks years to break out of what is familiar verses what is best, genuine and healthy.
Well, I think what gives me a shot at being better is I know how much I need the bible to even remotely love my wife the way I’m called to. My wife only benefits from my walk with God. Love is defined in the word so I would be a crazy man to “love” my own way when love is a God product. I have to pray a lot and read the bible, otherwise I have too many examples of conflicting views on how to love my wife…Disney movies, my parents, TV, friends, radio, r&b music, hip-hop. I work hard to stick with the one who created marriage in the first place.
Oh wow, discussing boundaries is very hard for me, very hard.
I learned true love IS boundaries. Thank God I’m married because I would never date any woman with no boundaries.
Men and women with no boundaries leave all their desires, happiness, direction etc… on someone elses shoulders and get angry when the other person hasn’t “guessed” their needs and desires correctly. People with no boundaries are reckless and abusive...that's just my perspective.
I say all the time “expectations that are not agreed upon by the opposite party is the beginning of an abusive relationship”. If you like a woman to call you right after work but you never say it but it creates an issues in your heart at some point … that is abusive you didn’t even give her a chance to meet the need or reject it. If you like for a man to buy you flowers but you never shared that in hopes he would ask or guess without you saying “I love flowers as a gift” but you tell your girlfriends “He still hasn’t bought me flowers, you know how I feel about that” that is abusive, you never gave him the chance to accept or reject your desires.
Now after you share the things you desire and things you don’t feel comfortable with and they still blow it off well, they are telling you what you have in my opinion. Boundaries are huge to me.
Click to learn more Marcell Russell
Thursday, April 25, 2013
STACIE, GUEST SPEAKER FOR T.C.W.F CONFERENCE
1st Annual
Women's Empowerment Conference
Saturday May 04, 2013
This one day conference will serve as a vehicle of inspiration, empowerment and catalyst for change in the lives of participants.
Speaker Sessions Include:
-Social Emotional and Mental health -Relationship & Self Development -Career rejuvenation -Spiritual enrichment -Financial/ Estate Planning -Physical Fitness & General Health |
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Best part of me
I thought about all this and tried to understand it. I saw that God controls good people and wise people and what they do, but no one knows if they will experience love or hate. Good and bad people end up the same - those who are right and those who are wrong, those who are good and those who are evil, those who are clean and those who are unclean, those who sacrifice and those who do not. The same things happen to a good person as happen to a sinner, to a person who makes promises to God and to one who does not.
This is something wrong that happens here on earth: What happens to one happens to all. So people's minds are full of evil and foolish thoughts while they live. After that, they join the dead. But anyone still alive has hope; even a live dog is better off than a dead lion!
The living know they will die, but the dead know nothing. Dead people have no more reward, and people forget them. After people are dead, they can no longer love or hate or envy. They will never again share in what happens here on earth.
So go eat your food and enjoy it; drink your wine and be happy, because that is what God wants you to do. Put on nice clothes and make yourself look good. Enjoy life with the wife you love. Enjoy all the useless days of this useless life God has given you here on earth, because it is all you have. So enjoy the work you do here on earth.
Whatever work you do, do your best, because you are going to the grave, where there is no working, no planning, no knowledge, and no wisdom.
~ Ecclesiastes 9:1-10
We know that we live in him and he lives in us because he has given us his spirit
~ John 4:13 GWT
In His hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of all mankind
~ Job 12:10
So be very careful how you live. Do not live like those who are not wise, but live wisely
~ Ephesians 5:15
For if we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the LordPRAYER:
~ Romans 14:8 NIV
Saturday, April 20, 2013
All Glory to God
Friday, April 19, 2013
Mounds, Mountains & Motivation
"Do not dwell on what appears to be failure too long; it was necessary for your growth and the development of your character. Take the lessons and move on"
~ Stacie J. Whitaker-Harris
"Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure"
~ Benjamin Disraeli
"Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory"
~ Theodor Geisell
"Don't let your failures define you -- let them teach you"
~ President Barack Obama
SCRIPTURE: PSALM 121:1-8 NLT
I look up to the mountains - does my help come from there?
My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth!
He will not let you stumble; the one who watches over you will not stumble.
Indeed he who watches over Israel never slumbers or sleeps.
The Lord himself watches over you!
The Lord stands beside you as a protective shade.
The sun will not harm you by day nor the moon at night.
The Lord keeps you from all harm and watches over your life.
The Lord keeps watch over you as you come and go,
both now and forever.
PRAYER:
Most gracious and loving God my Father, I pray for your continual guidance as I discover the newness in this life journey, embracing me and certainly the God in me, each and every day. In Christ name I pray, Amen
Thursday, April 18, 2013
The Facade: At Odds With God
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
PRAY WITHOUT CEASING
Building Again
- the basis or ground work of anything
- the basis for something physical or mental
- the natural or prepared ground or base on which some structure rests
- the lowest division of a building, wall, or the like
(Partly or wholly below the surface of the ground) - the act of founding, setting up, establishing